Amid the pain and confusion that life can sometimes bring, staying focused and staying within the lines of sanity can be challenging.
Emotions of others can be relenting and powerful to deal with at times, not to mention managing our own mental health.
It's important not to let another's emotional ‘stuff’ overlap and flood our own. While being empathetic or even empathizing with another person's pain or turmoil, we must be aware and place conscience boundaries on what we allow to consume our time and emotional space. Staying in a present time mindset is important. No one has time for the emotional vampire.
Being compassionate and willing to be there for another human being is an enormous gift, but we must take care of ourselves in the meantime.
Empaths tend to feel everyone else’s energy around them. It's essential to know your power and the power of someone else's feelings or energies, if you will. Identity is key. Practice and being aware and relying on the Ruach Quodesh / Holy Spirit to guide you and to show you the difference. She will help you recognize if it's yours or someone else energies or emotions.
In the Christian world, Empaths are called the Prophetic. There are so many similarities, except here we depend on the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit to lead us, not the Universe. Being an Empath is not a bad word; it's just that it's been used outside the church for so long, that it can sound a bit taboo. So by better understanding the subject, there will be less fear.
A person can get so stirred up inside by what's going on with another person that your near, or even when in or around large groups of people, that it can blur our sense of clarity and decision making. It can even bring on feelings of irritability or nervousness.
These feelings could have absolutely nothing to do with us and have everything to do with the energies around us. To be able to catch hold this and identify it quickly is critical.
Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your whole mood has changed, or you feel a type of static you didn't feel prior. Or when you are in a venue that's filled with many people and you leave feeling drained or upset for no reason. It can be a strange phenomenon, but not so strange once you have an ‘Ah Ha’ moment and grasp some well-deserved understanding on the subject.
There are some excellent books out there that explain more about this. Many are a bit new age in my opinion, but I take what I can and leave the rest behind. There are many parallels and they are worth understanding, in my opinion. Have you ever heard the saying, ‘Eat the meat and spit out the bones? I read a lot, and venture off in different spiritual directions to gain clarity. Rabbit holes are fun, just don't get stuck.
I like to be very clear about the spiritual world and discernment because there's a lot of yuckiness out there that I don't want to be connected to. Not every feeling and emotion is right, and we can pick up on others' emotions that might make us feel good or bad. Another point is that, we must own our feelings and no one else’s. Boundaries are a must!
Here are some books that helped me on my journey. There are others, I'm sure, but these have helped me to grow and understand what was going on within me. Discernment is a gift from God, and it can propel us along through life in significant ways, if we take time to understand it and become better acquainted.
Thriving as an Empath: Written by Judith Orloff MD
Empath: A Complete Guide Written by Judy Dyer
Boundaries: Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. Townsend , He has many books in this series.
Modern Prophets: A Toolkit for Everyone On Hearing God's Voice
Book by Shawn Bolz
The Feeler: By James W. Goll
26And in a similar way, the Holy Spirit takes hold of us in our human frailty to empower us in our weakness. For example, at times we don’t even know how to pray, or know the best things to ask for. But the Holy Spirit rises up within us to super-intercede on our behalf, pleading to God with emotional sighs too deep for words.
27 God, the searcher of the heart, knows fully our longings, yet he also understands the desires of the Spirit, because the Holy Spirit passionately pleads before God for us, his holy ones, in perfect harmony with God’s plan and our destiny.
9 And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth
of insight, 10 so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless
for the day of Christ,
Candice Holtzclaw ‘ Candi’
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