I feel I should share this, not only have I been in this situation, but I also know of others that have. For a myriad of reasons and culture I will share a bit into who I am, in hopes to lift up someone else. My original issue of isolating myself started from not having a solid support group some years ago. Beginning early on in life I was already prone to isolating myself. I was adopted from a young age and basically watched closely, not allowed to be anywhere where my real mom or family could get to me. There was physical and mental trauma that were also factors. As I grew older, it was almost natural for me to default to this behavior of isolation. My socialization skills were skewed at best. So when certain things happened to me as I got older I was quick to jump on the isolation train.
Some years ago I was in a religious setting and had many questions. Without getting into too much detail, I came upon a majority group thinking. A religious setting that can sometimes not allow for individual thinking. Basically this comes from fear. A fear of not knowing where to find my stable place.
When this would happen to me, before I ever realized or recognized the issue, instead of knowing what I was dealing with, I would go in another direction. I isolated myself. It was easier than trying to figure out the discomfort or agitation I felt inside. There is control involved too. There's such thing as good control and bad control, but that's another subject altogether. We all have many reasons we react to life in the ways we do. Childhood experiences, environmental, cultural ideologies and it seems to get so complicated, however basic questions can set these problems straight and give us clarity and direction. I’m not talking about just needing a little time alone for ourselves. That’s healthy and good. I’m talking about cutting people off, no support group, no one to talk out the scary stuff that can well up inside us. First of all, God doesn't want us alone. Even nature teaches us this valuable lesson. In the wild, animals that are separated from their packs become more vulnerable, weak and are open to attack. The same happens to us and in a spiritual sense it can be very damaging and dangerous. It’s one reason in our day and age we see so much depression and suicide. God can maneuver in life and he will. We just have to give him permission and ask for help. Then he will open a whole new world to us. I’ll share this article from charisma magazine in hopes It brings light on the subject of isolation.
Sometimes it takes a little work on our part, but be encouraged and I pray the blood of Jesus over each and everyone of you. I pray that God give you the power over the thoughts in your mind and the peace to make good decisions. I also pray that he encircles you with those that will walk through life with you, even when things get ugly or uncertain. I know he has the answers and solutions. For he is not the author of chaos, but the author of life and relationship. The enemy doesn't want us to be over comers, he wants us alone, powerless and vulnerable. Jesus wants us to experience those feelings of happiness and be filled with the Joy that only comes from God. When we have Gods word, a support group and good sources to go to whether it be council or friends at church, we can heal and move forward. It's kinda like a race, like working with a good team, we just keep practicing and asking God to show us whats next. It's then, that we will grow and mature in our weaknesses.
Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him. NKJV
1 Corinthians 14:33 For God is not the author of confusion but of peace, as in all the churches of the saints. NKJV
Hebrews 10:24-25 And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works,25 not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much more as you see the Day approaching. NKJV
Ecclesiastes 4:12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. NKJV
Galatians 5:22-23 the passion translation TPT
But the fruit produced by the Holy Spirit within you is divine love in all its varied expressions:
joy that overflows,
peace that subdues,
patience that endures,
kindness in action,
a life of virtue,
faith that prevails,
gentleness of heart, and
strength of spirit.
I've included this link from charisma magazine. Super good article
https://www.charismamag.com/life/women/19871-isolation-will-cost-you-spiritually